How to Respond to a Google Review Left on Behalf of Someone Else
A review starts with "my mother went there" from someone who never visited? Here's when secondhand Google reviews break policy, plus calm reply templates.
ReplyOnTheFly Team
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The review is detailed, emotional, and one star. There's just one odd thing: it starts with "My mother visited last week," and the person who wrote it has never set foot in your business.
Now you're answering for an experience the reviewer didn't have, describing a customer you can't identify, in front of every future customer who reads your profile. Welcome to the secondhand review, one of the strangest situations in review management.
Here's exactly how to respond to a Google review left on behalf of someone else, what Google's rules actually say about them, and when flagging is worth your time.
Quick Answer: To respond to a Google review left on behalf of someone else, address the substance of the complaint calmly and invite the actual customer to contact you directly, without debating who wrote it. Google's policies require reviews to reflect the reviewer's own experience, so a pure hearsay review can be flagged, but a companion who was present usually counts as a real customer. For the full framework, see our complete guide to responding to Google reviews.
In this guide, you'll learn:
- The difference between a companion review and pure hearsay, and why Google treats them differently
- How to check your records when the reviewer's name won't match anything
- Copy-paste reply templates for negative, positive, and privacy-sensitive secondhand reviews
- When flagging works, and when it wastes your time
Two Very Different Reviews Hide Behind "On Behalf Of"
Before you write a word, figure out which kind of secondhand review you're holding. They look identical and deserve completely different treatment.

The companion review. A parent reviews their child's orthodontist visit. A daughter reviews the plumber she hired for her elderly father's house. A husband reviews the anniversary dinner his wife booked. The reviewer wasn't your named customer, but they were there, or they paid, or they arranged the whole thing. This is a real firsthand experience wearing someone else's appointment.
The pure hearsay review. "My coworker went here and said the staff was rude." The reviewer never visited, never paid, and is relaying a story secondhand. This is closer to a review from someone who was never a customer, and Google's rules treat it accordingly.
The practical test: could the reviewer have witnessed what they're describing? If yes, respond to it like any genuine review. If they admit they weren't there, you have both a reply to write and a flag to file.
What Google's Policy Actually Says
Google's review policies require contributions to be based on a real experience at the place being reviewed. That's the rule that makes pure hearsay flaggable. Our breakdown of Google's review policies covers the full list of violations.
But notice what the rule doesn't say. It doesn't require the reviewer to be the person whose name is on the invoice. A companion who sat in your waiting room had a real experience there, and Google will almost always let their review stand.
So set your expectations by type:
- Companion reviews are staying up. Don't waste an afternoon flagging the mother of a patient. Put the effort into a good reply instead.
- Pure hearsay is worth flagging, especially when the reviewer states outright that they never visited. Screenshot that admission before they edit it.
- Removal takes days to weeks, and the first automated pass often fails. Our guide on how to remove a Google review walks through the flag and appeal process.
Screenshot the admission first
The sentence "I wasn't there myself, but..." is the entire basis of your flag. Reviewers sometimes edit their text after a business responds, so capture the review exactly as written before you reply or report it.
Check Your Records for the Real Customer
The reviewer's name won't be in your system, and that's expected. You're not looking for the writer. You're looking for the person they wrote about.

Search whatever details the review offers: the date, the service, the first name of the mother or husband or friend. Ask your staff if the incident sounds familiar. Three outcomes are possible, and each shapes your reply.
You find the visit. Good. Now you can respond to the actual event, fix what went wrong, and reach out to your real customer directly. Treat the review as accurate until proven otherwise.
You find nothing. The story may still be real, just booked under a name you haven't guessed. Your reply should say you couldn't match the details and invite direct contact, the same approach we recommend for a review you don't remember.
The details are impossible. You were closed that day, you don't offer that service, there's no record of anyone. Now the review looks less like a favor to a relative and more like fiction, and your flag gets stronger.
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Whoever wrote it, your real audience is the future customer scrolling past. Keep replies short, address the substance, and invite the actual customer into a private conversation.

The companion review with a real complaint
"Thank you for letting us know, Dana. I'm sorry your mother's visit didn't go the way it should have, and I'd like to make it right for her. Please have her call us directly, or reach out yourself, and we'll take care of it."
The hearsay review you can't verify
"Thanks for the note, Jordan. We've searched our records and can't find a visit matching these details, so it's hard to follow up properly. If your friend was a customer, please ask them to contact us directly, and we'll gladly look into what happened."
The positive review on someone's behalf
"Thank you, Priya! We're so glad your grandmother loved the arrangement. It means a lot that she asked you to share this, and we'll make sure the whole team hears it."
The privacy-sensitive version (healthcare, legal, counseling)
"Thank you for reaching out, Sam. Privacy rules prevent us from discussing whether anyone has visited our practice, but we take all feedback seriously. Please have the person involved contact our office directly so we can help."
That last one matters more than it looks. If you run a medical, dental, or mental health practice, confirming the person mentioned was ever a patient can violate HIPAA, even when the reviewer named them freely. Our healthcare review response examples cover this in depth.
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When to Flag Instead of Just Replying
Flagging and replying aren't either-or. Reply publicly first, because the review stays visible for days while Google reviews your flag. Then decide whether the flag is worth filing at all.

Flag it when:
- The reviewer states they were never there, in writing
- Your records rule the story out entirely, like a service you don't offer
- The account is brand new, reviews businesses it admits not visiting, or looks like an anonymous throwaway
Skip the flag when:
- The reviewer accompanied the customer or paid for the service
- A parent is reviewing a minor child's experience, which Google treats as firsthand
- The complaint checks out against your records, regardless of who typed it
One more thing to skip: the temptation to open your reply with "You were never a customer here." When the reviewer is a customer's daughter, that line makes you look both wrong and hostile, and she will happily explain why in a follow-up edit. Question the facts privately first, and let your public reply stay generous.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can someone leave a Google review on behalf of someone else?
Technically, no. Google's review policies require contributions to be based on the reviewer's own real experience at the business. A pure secondhand review, where the reviewer relays a story they weren't present for, violates that rule and can be flagged. The gray zone is companions: a parent reviewing their child's dental visit or a spouse who came along to the appointment was actually there, so their review usually counts as a genuine firsthand experience.
Should I respond to a Google review from a family member of a customer?
Yes, in almost every case. The complaint may be completely real even though the reviewer wasn't the paying customer, and future readers won't notice or care who typed it. Respond to the substance calmly, invite the actual customer to contact you directly, and skip any argument about whether the reviewer was allowed to post. Arguing about the messenger reads as dodging the message.
Will Google remove a secondhand review?
Sometimes, but don't count on it. If the reviewer clearly states they never visited, flag the review under Google's real-experience rules and include that quote in your appeal. If the reviewer accompanied the customer, was present for the visit, or paid for the service, Google will almost always treat it as a legitimate firsthand review and leave it up. Reply publicly either way, because the review stays visible while Google decides.
How do I respond if I can't find the customer in my records?
Say so, gently. Explain that you've searched your records and can't match the details, then invite the person who actually had the experience to contact you directly so you can look into it properly. This flags the review's secondhand nature for future readers without accusing anyone of lying, and it leaves the door open in case the story is real but filed under a different name.
How should healthcare businesses respond to reviews about someone else's care?
With extra caution. Privacy laws like HIPAA mean you can't confirm the person mentioned was ever a patient, even if the reviewer named them freely. Keep the reply generic: thank the reviewer, state your commitment to quality care, and invite them to contact your office through a private channel. Never mention appointment details, treatment, or even whether the person visited.
The Bottom Line
A review left on behalf of someone else is two problems disguised as one. Sort them first: a companion who was actually there wrote you a real review under an unfamiliar name, while pure hearsay is a policy violation you can flag with a clear conscience.
Either way, the public move is the same. One calm reply that takes the complaint seriously, admits what you can't verify, and invites the real customer to talk to you directly. Future readers judge you on that reply, not on who technically clicked the stars.
Key Takeaways:
- Separate companion reviews from pure hearsay: someone who was present or paid counts as a real customer, and Google will treat their review as legitimate.
- Search your records for the person described, not the person writing, before assuming the review is fake.
- Reply to the substance and invite the actual customer to contact you directly, without debating who was allowed to post.
- Flag pure hearsay under Google's real-experience rules, and screenshot any "I wasn't there" admission before it gets edited.
- In healthcare and other privacy-bound industries, never confirm the person mentioned was a customer or patient at all.
For the broader framework, see our complete guide to responding to Google reviews. For related situations, see responding to reviews from non-customers and responding to a review you don't remember.
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